Theodora "Do" Arends

August 10, 1926 - March 25, 2018
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Theodora “Do” Arends, 91, died peacefully Sunday, March 25, 2018 at the East Longmeadow Skilled Nursing Center where she had resided since 2012.  Daughter of the late Dirk and Lolkje Conneman, Do was born in the Scheveningen part of The Hague on August 10, 1926.  She showed much tenacity and resourcefulness during the Nazi occupation of the Netherlands during World War II.  Having survived the ravages and horrors of living in a war torn country, she denounced war.

Always a free spirit, with a sense of adventure, Do lived in South Africa for 10 years and emigrated to the U.S. in the 1970’s , to be closer to her son. She and her husband owned and operated a print shop on Cape Cod for many years, retiring to Western Mass. Do was a member of the Irish Club while living on the Cape and donated to many animal welfare programs, having been an avid animal lover throughout her life.  She enjoyed classic films, jazz/classical music and the arts.  She touched many with her warm, generous and hospitable nature and her many gestures to those she loved.

A loving wife, mother, grandmother, aunt and friend, she will be deeply missed and lovingly remembered.

Do is survived by her daughter Erna Page of South Africa, her daughter-in-law Paula Arends of Belchertown, her grandchildren David and Debbie Page Atwell of South Africa; T.J. Arends of Pawtucket, RI; Laura Leitao of Cape Cod and Dan Arends of Belchertown. She also leaves her niece Ingrid den Hartog of NL, as well as extended family and friends in the Netherlands.  Sadly, in addition to her parents, she was predeceased by her husband of 50 years Jacobus “Jim” Arends, her beloved son Theodorus “Tom” Arends, her siblings Ems van der Roest and Laurens Conneman and her son-in-law Brian Page.


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Visiting hours at the funeral home will precede the service from 10:00-11:00 AM.

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Funeral services will be held Saturday, March 31, 2018 at 11:00 AM at the Kapinos-Mazur Funeral Home, 64 Sewall St., Ludlow, MA Burial will follow in Island Pond Cemetery.

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Donations may be made to the Alzheimer’s association or animal shelter of your choice.


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Timeline for Theodora "Do" Arends

Born: August 10, 1926
August 10, 2011
the later years
the later  years
January 1, 1970
Birthday late 90s
Birthday late 90s
March 25, 2048
Gave birth to Theodorus Arends
Gave birth to Theodorus Arends
Died: March 25, 2018

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Jill Norton posted on 3/31/18

In memory of Theodora "Do" Arends, Jill Norton lit a candle


Paula arends posted on 3/31/18

In memory of Theodora "Do" Arends, Paula arends lit a candle


Don & Deb Chase posted on 3/29/18

In memory of Theodora "Do" Arends, Don & Deb Chase lit a candle


TJ Arends posted on 3/29/18

In memory of Theodora "Do" Arends, TJ Arends lit a candle


George and Jan Simpson posted on 3/28/18

In memory of Theodora "Do" Arends, George and Jan Simpson lit a candle


monica den hartog posted on 3/28/18

Do was my great aunt, my grandmothers sister. I visited her last in 2008. We shared the love for jazz, movies and animals and the need to rescue them, especially cats. I miss her. Btw, I could only post this by logging on to an American server, because condoleances from Holland are blocked. Do would say "shame". Love you tante Do


Carla Chiavelli posted on 3/28/18

In memory of Theodora "Do" Arends, Carla Chiavelli lit a candle


Donna Moller posted on 3/27/18

In memory of Theodora "Do" Arends, Donna Moller lit a candle


Michele posted on 3/27/18

In memory of Theodora "Do" Arends, Michele lit a candle


Paula posted on 3/27/18

Lieve Do Thank you for all you did for me over the past 26 years. You were a kind and generous woman with much compassion and spirit. Now you can rest easy with Jim, your adored Theo, and all your loved ones. Ik hou van je, Paula


Daniel Arends posted on 3/27/18

I will always love you my sweet and kindhearted grandmother. Your loving ways have made my life special being with you. Miss you my friend. Love your grandson Danny.